I decided to leave my job because this new proposal, I was more convenient as an experience and by the closeness to my house. The case is that yesterday I started in the new office and became too distressed. I'm used to working with my former colleagues, who are talking and making jokes constantly, and go out to have lunch and wander a bit with them. And there is all different, not speak between them, in the time of lunch everyone bring their dish of food to the desk. I know that it is still too early, but I was impressed to see that among themselves they came together to eat, became so sad to spend the whole day without talking to anyone I went away to cry in my house. I try to think that it is my idea and I have to wait a little longer to try to develop some relationship, but still miss very much to my colleagues. Perhaps for many it is something silly, but being accustomed to working with "friends", I feel that now the 9 hours in the office it will make me eternal.
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Well, that's natural, because you feel that you deceived your former teammates of office workplace change and if we add you in the atmosphere so special that you found, you have that expression of feelings. By what each eats just your you can start to make a difference leading pasa-bocas sharing them with some of them and don't worry if you look weird at the beginning but that breaks the ice.
It is normal that you feel depressed in that situation. In your other work, you had a situation very nice that you provided a lot of good things (in psychology we call reinforcements). And in this new situation, you have lost those reinforcements ("good stuff") that you had before. The fact of losing reinforcements is likely to be the cause of you are sad and miserable. What you can do is try to talk about you with others, both at lunchtime as at any other time. You can also bring something to eat to share with some of them. You try to create you same situations to talk, eat together, etc .. Do it little by little and surely you establishing good relationships, and you go making friends.
In and of itself is normal that you feel nostalgic after you've changed of work, but if you add that here are more serious and including the period of adaptation, does this increase the nostalgia, awkwardness and sadness . ( To me has happened to change my job and get to think "if it was worse the remedy than the disease" ) But well, now, I think, that what is best is to observe the panorama, as each one is, why act like this? Or is that like just now eat separate by a matter of work, but in seasons more calm unite more, perhaps, is a new site, you first have to know why are things ( sometimes appearances can be deceiving ;) ) To the best of your most are almost all new, or they take little time. In the end, that when you have a tiempecito and see more or less the panorama, it acts, you yourself (with caution of course, but well, that depends of each one, there are more extroverts and/or introverts ) In the end, as far as you are acting. Take advantage of a conclusion, which is that it's your birthday, you have a month to work there (and happy with your new job and colleagues ;) ) What won the football match that you wanted, or tennis or formula one ( I that is, of something that you understand) Good to use imagination and take advantage of an excuse to take, candies, chocolates, cookies or food, and make you all more happy and harmony in the workplace. Always smile, and if you see someone just eating in if table you say, something so, ummm; that looking good is. What cuisines have you your? Not my mother, wife or whoever and there begins a contact, I usually use that at times (but is that I really like to eat ) and I say lucky you that you cooked a plate so rich ; or something like that. Normally people grace, in addition to people like them to value or even value their loved ones . Well, roll much I am giving, so I just want to say that when you know a bit more, and see more or less as they are, interact to feel more comfortable at work and create a more pleasant environment ( at least for you ;) ) In the end I hope you serve my advice and I wish you all the best in your new job . Good luck ! :)
Quiet, that will happen. Really, everything, or almost, has its pro and against. It may seem hard on the system that you have now, but buscale the positive part : in these friendly matches which you say, sometimes there are hiccups, jealousy, etc., it is true, not what you lived for you, but that happens in an office environment, although not being noticed or people don't want to be noticed, some apprehension hidden, there is almost always. The fact that you're working in an almost social isolation, has its benefits, takes advantage of those moments to sort out your ideas, to plan, to schedule the rest of your days. Friends, you can have out, if any of your former teammates you are interested in much, and one of them also, you can continue the friendship like, you can talk with them, meet up outside.