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Am I envious of other people's sex life and don't know what to do?

It will be because even having 22 years I am still chaste, and to hear stories of this kind makes me quit a vein envious difficult to calm. Not, stories veridicas, with no real base and something embellished or completely untrue, the case is that when I have one of this stories, I think that I am from another world, or that those stories are of another world, is that they are so... Not if I comprendeis... Are so hard to grasp for people not initiated, that it seems that we will never going to go to one and there can arise envy, not what is. An example, a few years ago I got along well with a girl, and the truth, we were quite friends one time, that served me to learn as it was and a little of her life and she of mine. The case, is that she lost the virginity at the age of 19, but what's more... No, I remember, was as I said the lost: I was with a guy older than her, at night, after I take something with other people and suddenly or that I remember because it apetecio, is what he said to the boy, to be careful and not that, took it to his home, a two, three, and ready, so easy. Since I heard that, the story does not ceases to amaze me, and for another does not stop sting me the envy to this day, well that was the first story of many more who told me: sex on beach, oral sex in the middle of the street behind a column, the typical night out you know the guy you really like and you end up having sex without a commitment of one night, this latest story several times with different protagonists... The girl from then it was a box of surprises. And more, many more, in the end not know if they are real full, half or are false, but I will be counting the people: a known that your ex-girlfriend missed him was to see her and ended up with sex, that time and some more, a group of well-known this with a group of well-known and the guys in that group are pulling each one to each one of the girls from that group... Like it or not, each story is itching more and more, and one's self (me in this case) end up thinking that being in a situation of such is luck, it's a matter of the girl that you are, it is something that one same causes, is to be in the right place at the right time... A lot of things you pose to explain why some and not others (me in this case) not. I have security in myself, confidence, etc and I think that this type of envy is not very different from other that people have, the envy you for having a girlfriend, envy for having a better life that one leads, many kinds of envy. In my particular case, my great envy is this. Seriously, can anyone come to the understanding that I would like to live one of those experiences without thinking that I am desperate to lose my virginity?

2voto

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I think that may be a problem that has relation with the expression of your masculinity. Don't you see yourself with a leading role in one of those stories. To know the origin it is imperative that indagues in your personal history to know at what point in the evolutionary development and in the relationship with important figures arose this difficulty. Jealousy and envy tend to be explained, for example, by the non-assimilation of the division of maternal care in a family system with multiple siblings. We all have to a greater or less extent, depending on how we have overcome those initial relationships that led to such feelings. The identification with the father is also a fundamental theme to explain the difficulties in the expression of masculinity. I hope you find your way. Thank you for your assessment in advance. A cordial greeting to you. Alberto Manuel Belmonte - Clinical Psychologist (Therapy Online) [http://experienciascumbre.es/terapiaonline/](http://experienciascumbre.es/terapiaonline/)

1voto

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\[Good, the truth is we listen to desperate to lose my virginity, and I wonder. Why? Seriously worth going to bed with someone that you embarrara of sweat, saliva and fluids, and to a sexually transmitted by the kinks and dust off that warmth?. The truth is not envy. That is to sleep with as many girls if you really loves, is to lose the time and fill your life with loneliness and the need for something empty. My recommendation is, focus on finding a good profession and a good job, and as you go, do not stop to meet people, since you will find that girl that in truth will make you perspire from emotion, and cause his stomach to twist of impatience, and his heart golope in his chest when both of them together are taken in her arms and kissed with desire and passion... look at colleague when the time comes you will realize, that all those stories are rubbish, because when a girl loves you truly and you also, when you see that she ak like you have that the need for us to be together. This is when you will be the envy of all those people, because you will have this treasure, that none of the ignorant will be achieving, because that person colleague, it girl will be more than just a gift from heaven... will be part of your life. Don't despair and keep going. Lucky Champion.

1voto

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We account a situation that is difficult for you. From what you say it seems that you're focused on what others have and your not. In that for others it is easy and possible that is for you not. In fact you ask the reasons why others do what you want and you do not. Effectively, and as well say this type of envy is equal to any other, for that, in the end, even though the situation or the object that is to be envy may vary or change depending on the person. The base is the same. Let me ask you to clarify the situation Why do you compare yourself with others? What is the idea of that? Have you thought of focusing on getting what you want? Don't you think that if you are planning for you is difficult, that you can't do it with the ease or luck that others have, and this influences the way you feel with yourself and in the possibility of getting what you both want? I await your response Wishing you a great day Diana Ohana [Psychologist Online](https://www.atraigaelexito.com/psicologa_en_linea/)

0voto

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-1voto

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1: it IS normal that you feel like losing your virginity, pq in the case of women because you feel as a woman complete and mature, and in the case of men, I guess q is the same. As long as you are a virgin you feel like q you are missing something truth? As q you are not yet older, or mature, or complete, and you're still a kid stupid kid immature and so on.. 2: Tb, I say that there is a lot of legend with the theme of virginity, especially for girls, that is a lot of nonsense about movies q for nothing is so. It is best to lose the virginity with a partner q I want to, that is, q is to have sex with love, this is what the truth better pq you always have that beautiful memory. And what is not advisable is to do it with anyone as you are friend or like other people q what do in any place and others . 3: In your case, being a guy of 22 years because: I think that you should do it already, do pq but? The more time you spend because you're going to take a toll, psychological and physical trauma. 4: And if you have a physical evil because it goes to a professional, there are many and easy to access x internet and you don't need to go to a local as they were years ago or in the middle of the street either. And so you take away that problem x to call it so is to be an uncle, a lady with 22 years old today. 5: it is important to tb for q to be an expert in that aspect, pq to any girl we like to be with a man in all senses, expert tb in the sex. And not to be with young inexperienced That is the worst thing q can happen to a woman q is a boy and is a novice in the sex, phew .

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